ToiTime

Mental Wellness and Self Care Queen

Let me be clear as a married woman I’m not shopping around for a stand by mate.  I have to make that disclaimer early because misery loves company and I’m good.  I was on my social media look around and a friend of mine made a statement that took me back.  Now since I know how blogging about others work I will keep all identity closed.  However I have to lay out some of the things that rubbed me the wrong way.

One we as humans are super divided. Its down right out-of-pocket. What I can’t deal with is when adult men say something of the most insensitive things in regards to women.  I know women say off things too but for me men are leaders. Leaders who go out their way to belittle women just are another level of human I don’t vibe well with.

How do some men push their level of ignorance, entitlement, or pure arrogance around but want to be treated like kings? This isn’t all men. I have to say that not to lose the man who will use that statement to mentally check out.

I started this blog a week ago but since the comments from Donald Trump this seems like the best time to release it. Men have always been apart of the boys club by nothing more than the member between their legs.  Whether or not men subscribe and are active members is what matters most to me. It would be great to live in a society where women and men were equal but unfortunately we aren’t there yet.  Women are the ones who have to defend themselves against this type of foolishness. It’s sheer madness.

I made a statement on my personal Facebook page and I stand by it.  If I can’t even get the men whom I associate with to make changes than we have a long way to go.   If saying things in regards of grabbing pussy or getting any women you want and making said women do what you want don’t sound off than what is? Women aren’t objects.  We are more than the curves of our body.  The flip to this is we women too need to wake up and know that too.  We objective men and if we want an equal playing field than we got to play accordingly. Do I have the answer on what will make a man respect women across the board?  Nope but it starts with the men we have in our lives. If you dating a man or married to one who does this, shut it down. Speak up. Do not sit and say they just being men.  My husband almost snapped his neck looking at a women’s ass in front of me.  I almost came across the other side and snapped it back. I spoke up. I’m not going to sit idle and see no mess like that going down and be okay with it.  If you do it with someone in my presence than the respect line I set up most not be well-defined.

I have some of the most respected leaders in my circle but I too have heard them when they think they are I mixed crowds speak about women but have a different woke conversation when affluent men and women are around. If you listen to people they reveal their real selves and not the lines they want you to know.  I will continue to call this crap out.  Donald and the only ones we need to worry about. Stop sitting in the presence of a man who speaks like this period.  Don’t date them.  Don’t sleep with them and don’t marry them. They are the same ones who will have to raise your daughters. They are the ones grooming their sons to break your princesses’ heart.  So while the world is tearing Donald a new one and he definitely deserves it, just be sure to snap on the ones you entertain too.


 

Verified by MonsterInsights