ToiTime

Mental Wellness and Self Care Queen

I know you haven’t missed a beat with the events that have been going on! Whether you are over the turmoil or not everyone’s life has been impacted. Here in Philadelphia we have moved to the Yellow Phase, protest are still on going, and relationships are being tested.

Thriving

As a Black woman who is also a mother and wife, the way in which I view life around me is all over the place. I’m having to question relationships of friends and some family on where they stand. I’m having to question loyalty which is basically saying loyalty might not have existed in the first place. It’s a deep separation right now. As much as I want to make excuses it’s coming down to the rubber meeting of the road moment. I don’t know how the world will heal when we have to convince so many in the world of the ugliness that still exists. So as you start your Monday maybe you’re not thriving. Maybe you’re not okay. I will say maybe you’re numb. Maybe you’re in pain. This is where so many of us are.

Reality Show

So it feels like we are living our life in a reality show. It’s like an outer body experience and you’re waiting on the director to yell cut. That cut isn’t happening. No one is entertained. This feels heavy and gut wrenching. It’s not about ratings anymore and life is no longer imitated art. What we have read in the history books has come to life and it’s scary. If you read my latest article on anxiety then you know how vulnerable I’ve and much of America has felt. I would have never thought we would have to march for basic rights. I would have never thought we would see police slamming bodies to the ground, running folks over and even sending horses through crowds. This is the story of my great grandparents and yet as they have transitioned we are calling on their strength to guide us!

What Now?!

I wish I had a clue! I don’t! I’ve been trying to love on my kids to feel calm. I have been attempting to sing it away. I’ve been attempting to pray it away. I’m not saying it’s not working. I’m not saying that there aren’t moments when I feel better but overall it’s not! So I’m hoping with the marching and protesting that change is soon coming.

So I know Monday looks weird. It feels out of place. How can we go to work with so much pain and anguish?! Bills don’t stop, the world is only on a small pause especially if there is no empathy to start, and life is not the same. Still reeling from Covid-19 we can’t get it together. It feels like a movie with a bad ending.

Daily challenge:

  • Self check
  • Reduce social media
  • Take breaks
  • Talk to trusted family and friends
  • Work out for mental and physical health
  • Journal
  • Eat a balanced meal
  • Donate when you can
  • Use your voice especially within your circles

Whatever you do take stock on where you are within yourself! It’s important to press! But when you feel like you can’t and you’re overwhelmed, acknowledge it. Don’t get so upset, or beat yourself up too much about where you think you should be.

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