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Happy Wednesday and welcome to today’s mental health check in. If you aren’t into Christmas or the holidays the season may feel like an overload of emotions. It’s okay to say that out loud. Keep in mind there’s a few things you can do to process your emotions. Here are my suggestions!

Pace yourself this Holiday Season

I love Christmas. However even for me it is a lot. All of these events to bring them to you my amazing community is fun but overwhelming. I always put myself in the shoes of my readers and know for a fact that there’s no way you will enjoy each activity I showcase. What I suggest is you go to the things that matter the most. I have certain activities that I take the kids because we all love it. The others I attend by myself. There’s no need to stress out the people in my house over an event or holiday fun.

What do you want to do the most? Set your calendar for those events. Also block off time to relax too. You don’t have to do it all in one month. For instance, I’ve added a lot of quiet days. These are days to do things with my family. The days are also for me to catch up on things on the backend.

Set the Boundaries with Family and Friends

If you don’t have the capacity to do for others right now simply don’t. Friends and family should be the most understanding. In the real world we know that’s not the case. It took me a minute to get to the point where I weeded out the friends that were around me for what they could get from me. You can’t change your family but you can close the door to requests and those who will drain you!

Mental Health Black Out Moments

This is not to be confused with those who get so angry that they black out from stress. When was the last time you had a personal date? I find that we don’t do enough of personal time. Even if you live alone it’s something about getting out and enjoying time doing things that you enjoy! Take yourself out. Enjoy some food, try a new restaurant, go to the movies, self care, or even since it is holiday time a holiday event. I do feel comfortable with others around. However it’s equally important to be in your skin and loving you. I’m reminded of when I was single. Things like a bookstore run or a plant shop would interest me.

You can lose yourself as your titles increase. Get back to you this holiday. So many people wait for the New Year to renew this call. Treat yourself!

Simply Say No

No is a full sentence So when you find yourself feeling the need to jump hurdles for others, cut back. You don’t owe anyone anything. Remember that your time is just as high of a commodity as money. Depleting resources is never what you want to do. It’s like driving on fumes when you need to stop and get gas.

Holiday Meaning to You

Remember what the holidays mean to you. If you value more of that you won’t allow yourself to get carried away. If you feel yourself getting distracted-resift your thoughts. You are in total control of you and your responses. This is why knowing your triggers is important. Focus on what the holidays bring you-the feelings and hold onto them.

My Personal Thoughts and Mental Health This Week

I’ve been having fun with all that I have had to do. This week I had to catch up with my husband. I found that we like many parents were running on relationship fumes. We hadn’t connected we were just in responsibility mode. Yes we handled the things that our children needed, paid bills, and our calendars were synced in harmony. But we hadn’t had the opportunity to simply enjoy one another’s company. I enjoy laying on my husband’s chest watching television. We both enjoy snuggling and honestly have been so exhausted we just go to bed. Don’t forget to date your mate!

As far as business, I sent out notices to changes in billing. Taking charge is important but like many entrepreneurs have said, being nice or handling your business may not always work. So I am doing things differently. All business partners have been put on notice. I felt amazing sending those letters out. The feeling of empowerment was real. So just like you I am taking care of my mental health. Things like staying on my medication, getting rest, and even making sure that I’m eating well have helped me. Please take care of you this week. I’ll update all of the things this Friday but as always the mid week should be celebrated. Cheers to doing your best!


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