Sunday Message: Best Decisions

Happy Sunday! Today is a good day to have a good day! I want to talk about best decisions over good decisions. Not every decision is filled with can be considered good ones. Often times decisions are based on resources available. So if you find yourself in what others deem as a bad decision let’s consider the best decision.

Doing what’s Best-Sunday Thoughts

In life I’ve had many times when I didn’t always make good decisions. You move from an emotional place and don’t allow things like common sense to be your guide. In those times I’ve had to step back after a decision is made and have my heart be filled with regret. While in therapy I’ve had to be honest about those moments. Forgiving myself is always the hardest. So how can you make the best decision even when two decisions may not be in a good one.

What’s the Best Decision?

My therapist taught me to learn to make the best decision at the time. When making a decision asking myself what resources surround my decision making process we’re a available at the time. For instance my husband and I decided to live in a certain house. We were paying off debt and trying not to come out of pocket for too many expenses at one. The house that we lived in wasn’t the best. So after we moved looking back it was the best decision at the time.

We could have spent more money but we had replaced both cars at one time and had one child in private school and the other two in daycare. Some would say we should have taken the oldest out of private school, maybe have me work at night to cut costs on daycare. We as a family made the best decision for us at the time. Looking back at it, a million and one different outcomes could have happened. We did the best for us. In addition we learned so much about ourselves and as a unit.

Decisions and Agreement

So when I was in college my parents would tell me how they were paying for college. They also informed me that my behavior there needed to align to what they wanted. It took me a minute before I realized that I couldn’t do what they wanted. Although a lot of their advice on behaviors made sense, my season of college needed to unfold as it did. Eventually after I was working 2-3 jobs and going to school full time, I remembered that my parents weren’t even paying for school.

Now no dig to them, how many times have you found yourself making decisions in hopes that those who won’t live with your decisions agree? This isn’t to say that people can’t offer sound advice. However, I’ve learned that there is a balance in advice and control. We offer up control to so many people who will never have to help, live with, or pay for your decisions.

Sunday Realness

In life we have to do better in our decision making processes. It’s not an oh well my life move on. However although some folks don’t like hearing that it can be that way too. As we mature, our decisions have to be less about ego. The 20 year old Toi made decisions to spite others. The money that it costs me over the years made me quickly learn to do better.

So I had to wise up! Beyond the others around me, or making everyone happy I had to learn to do what made sense for me. There will be some who won’t agree with the decisions. Outsiders offer insight we can’t see. However pleasing others may not be feasible. As you start setting your goals, consider your sources and resources. Made a decision that you can be proud of. Be consistent in attempting to remove emotions if possible. It’s okay to ask for opinions but be sure you can live with the decisions made.

Happy Sunday! Enjoy your day! Make the best decisions for yourself today and this week. Consider the sources and resources! Stand on what you do! Happy Sunday!