The statement of what it means to be a woman is so complicated. Some would answer this in relation to their status meaning a wife or mother but the reality is being a woman when you strip the titles is much more than who were are connected to or what connects us to others. Being a woman is one of the most liberating yet most scariest thing ever.
We don’t get the respect that we deserve. Find any woman it doesn’t matter if she is CEO of a large company or a stay at home mom, she is under appreciated She is expected to be everything to everyone all the time. She is to be dressed to the nine, fierce, show strength but not too much strength if there is a man present. She is expected to wear a lot of hats but not show emotion because emotion is considered a weakness. Women can be all of those things. We as women define us and that definition of who we are changes as the things within and around us change.
We are able to make things happen on small and large scales. We can handle a lot of things that come our way and are one of the most resilient creatures you will ever know. We don’t always get the chance to come back and get it right. Often times we have to be reactive due to whatever is being thrown our way. Women are beautiful no matter the shade of color. We are beautiful no matter what we own or don’t have. The beauty of a woman is to remain who she wants to be even when the world wants a certain reaction from us. We are in control. So what defines one woman may not work for the next. Let me give you an example. Every woman is not a mother yet motherhood isn’t what defines a woman’s womanhood. As long as she is a woman she is a woman. She doesn’t need to bear children to be accepted into this invisible club that she already was either birthed or in this day paid to be in. It’s that simple. I really get tired of all of non mothers who have to go through the 4th degree as to why. Yet there are women having, killing, or throwing babies away getting passes. Most of this even comes from other women and we have to do better.
Women are complex and beautiful. So for women’s month my goal is to highlight that. I don’t want to give you just the stories of women who are all making it but fail to showcase the failures it took to get to where they are now. There are so many no, falls, screwups, second chances, etc that take place and sometimes with the filters of social media all we see is the beautiful side. So when you as a woman are going through your dark side you feel alone. You feel like a loser when we all have these same moments. We all cry. We all hurt. There is a woman with fabulous still being dogged out by someone. There is a woman somewhere being told that she is less even though she is giving her all, failing, and then left feeling deserted. So ladies, ease up on all the judgments. We all trying to do our absolute best. So for women history month and beyond this blog will always showcase women in a positive light. We may always deal with the negative things we need to do better in but we will always deal with them in the manner where we all win.
