So the back story is a reader is married and friends with another girl and her husband and they often go out on double dates except the dates have become uncomfortable due to the invited couple arguing and making a scene every where they go!
My advice is speak to the friend aka the wife. But before you speak to her go into the situation knowing that you will not change how that husband and wife interacts. You really shouldn’t want to. The second you go into that conversation with any other expectation you are setting yourself up for failure.
You being married already know that the second you attempt to explain that the arguing and fighting is wrong it at least wrong while on dates the wife will take offense. You don’t have to be around a bunch of yelling and drama just because it’s their right to be the type of couple they choose to be! I know some folks reading this is thinking maybe the friend will be receptive but the truth of the matter is that other friend knows her and her husband are doing the most and they don’t care. There’s no way you can be out with folks being loud, arguing, making a scene and it keeps happening and they just don’t get it?!
So you need to let her know that it’s uncomfortable and the next time they ask you to go out say no. If the wife asks you why just say you needed a break from the drama. This sends the clear message and gives you the power to make it about you and not them. They can be and interact any way they want but what they can’t do is expect you to be okay with it especially in public. Not only that who wants to be around that all the time outside of them?! If they love it then kudos to them but folks hate being out and attempting to be about fun and uplifting marital bliss and having to have all eyes on them cause one part of the party is doing the most. My thing and this is a little extra information to anyone who knows they are that argumentative couple, stay home. I get that things can pop off at any given time but at some point that has to get old. You will lose friends and other couples who want to be around you because you can’t shut it down for a few hours! If you have that much dysfunction go to counseling. Seriously!
You as the friend do need to speak up since it’s bothering you or you and your husband but friend or not you don’t have to subject yourself to that behavior double date or not. To be honest double dates are fun but telling your friend no can allow you and your own husband the ability to go out without being embarrassed or uncomfortable!
