Sunday Spring Cleaning Goals

Happy Sunday! Have you started your spring cleaning?! I have. Although I’m having to deviate my cleaning schedule today here’s a few suggestions on resetting your home and life.

Clean one space at a time

This can be applied to homes and life. We tend to want fix it all. However that can be overwhelming. So when you’re cleaning up your space take care of the little things. Spring cleaning isn’t about surface cleaning: it’s deep cleaning time. Consider the space and what the goal is. Most of us are about decluttering and minimizing space.

So get your buckets and tools ready it’s time to clean up our space.

Getting to the bottom of the mess

Have you ever done anything and what you done may not necessarily be the issue. I learned in therapy that deep rooted issues cause so much of the mess we see. So when I was in my 20s I was always glad to be in drama. If something was messy happening count me in. I was the first to get loud, fight, and more.

The root of the issue is understanding that being messy isn’t about the people and things that lead to the mess. It’s an internal problem of deep rooted issues for me. So as I started to understand that I had to come to the reality of my part in the mess I created. That hurts. For years I blamed everyone for what I had done. It was an uncovering that led me to be vulnerable for the first time.

How to Reset your life

This is a personal journey. Just like with cleaning up your space it’s a preference. So for me when I was uncovered I decided to simply own it. Here are the changes I made. I stopped watching reality shows. I’ve said this before this was my personal choice. I wanted to be disassociated with drama I had to stop participating in any form of it. I took a few years and separated from my extended family. This helped me heal and be a better wife and parent.

I separated my feelings with my husband’s family too. This allowed me to understand what I wanted from them and what I was willing to do to find that love inside of me. When I was first married I really did leave my family and cleave to my new family. The issue was that between postpartum depression, anxiety, and depression I had caused a wedge. So separating helped me clean up my act.

Clean and Organize

As I cleaned up my act I knew that I wouldn’t be everyone’s tea. This revelation helped me. It can be isolating but it’s worth it to do the right thing. More and more therapy allowed me to be more present. I took more parenting classes to help me be a better parent and learn how to solve conflict in parenting. Finally I was happier and at peace. My spirituality was stronger and for once I smiled more.

Clean up the Mind

The mind is one powerful tool. Anything that you think can mess with how you move. My movement in the past led me to dramatic conclusions. So it was so good to do the things I missed. Things like reading, going one solo trips and staycations, planning family and time with my husband helped restore balance. To this day I still do this. Mr husband and I are back to monthly date nights and quarterly staycations. Yes every 3 months we do a bed and breakfast, hotel or some other getaway.

My therapist at the time helped me unlearn bad habits and replace them with better ones that would serve me and my family. I have since made amends with some family members. As far as my husband’s family, I have relationships with some and with all I’m cordial. Don’t let your mindset talk you out of a good life.

Deep Cleaning

As you deep clean your home you can also deep clean your thoughts, set new boundaries, and be a better person altogether. It takes work. Just like with decluttering you have to admit what contributed to it and make a plan to end it. I ended drama, took on therapy, went to church, prioritize my family, started the blog, and found peace.

You can do the work to be your best self you just need to be willing to deep clean your life and trust me you can do it.

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